'My neighbours stomp around at 4am then complain about my afternoon habit'

A woman was left confused as to why she and her neighbour couldn't just get along, but she was concerned that things were too far gone. She explained that when she moved in, below the neighbour, she tried to come across as a "good" person, by leaving cards for special occasions, smiling at them when she saw them, and politely asking them whether they could keep the noise down before 7am. "You know, basic decency," she wrote.

However, this didn't work, and they were unable to bond, and it was mainly down to her neighbourcompletely ignoring her polite and reasonable request.

She wrote on a Reddit forum: "The main culprit (let’s call her Teresa) used to get ready for work at 4am during our first year. FOUR. IN. THE. MORNING.

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"It sounded like a herd of elephants doing CrossFit in my ceiling. Then her schedule 'changed,' and for the past year and a half, she only works twice a month on weekends… Yet the early-morning chaos continues like clockwork".

On the contrary, she said that she and her husband are "very quiet," and they "don't throw parties" and "barely have guests" over.

"We know their bedroom is right above our living room, so out of respect, we shut everything down by 10pm during the week and retreat to our bedroom. Still, the stomping continues all night long, often exceeding 70db, and my security camera catches it regularly. I’ve been keeping a log for almost two years, just in case," she explained.

She also said that her neighbours follow her "from room to room, stomping in perfect sync" with wherever she walks in the apartment.

"They eavesdrop on conversations. They text or call my phone in the middle of the night—often at 3am—while stomping over my bedroom because I wasn’t answering. (I was asleep.) This morning at 6am, Teresa texted me again about 'running a machine.' I have no idea what she means, but apparently, she thinks my life is public property," she fumed.

And she was even more seething because the neighbour has the audacity to complain about her music, which she only plays in the afternoons when she's "cooking or doing chores". "They even texted our landlord about it, even though I’ve never involved him otherwise—past experience shows landlords don’t care about noise," she shared.

"At some point, after years of polite patience, I snapped and cursed her out. Since then, I avoid her completely if I see her outside," she fumed.

She also explained that moving wasn't an option at the moment, so there was nothing she'd be able to do on that front.

In the comments, someone wrote: "Block them from calling or texting you for a start".

She explained that after their last lot of texting that she had done just that, saying she didn't respond and it was "straight to blocked" for them.

"With the documentation you have, I’d file a police report! This sounds like harassment to me, especially the calling while stomping to wake you up?" another suggested.

Another Redditor penned: "How to ignore ignorance: You have to somehow learn to accept that what is going on has nothing to do with you, and it’s not because of you why they are doing it, and it’s not your fault they are doing it. They obviously have some form of psychological issues or emotional issues.

"I don't know what, but they have something going on upstairs. Another thing you have to accept is that you can’t change them; they have to change themselves. I know it’s hard to be nice to people who don’t respect you, but being nice to them and showing them you're happy is a good thing.

"Then they will see that their actions are not getting to you, and very well could change or stop doing it. You could address them by letter, explaining how their actions are making you feel. Read literature on how to accept difficult people".